"What are you doing?" she asked.
"Not much, getting ready to go shopping," I replied.
"Good! You need to Facebook someone for me."
Now, half of the world's population is on Facebook, but not my best friend. She refuses. I have tried to urge her to become one with the world, explaining how fun it is to reconnect with old friends, but she just won't do it.
Anyhow, I settled in front of my computer to do a search for her. And yes, you guessed right, she wanted me to check out a man she had met. So after I gave her all the info I could find on this guy, we discussed the situation, and I gave her my advice, which forever after now will be known as Kim's Tips on Men.
- Once you've expressed your interest, DO NOT CONTACT HIM AGAIN. Wait until he initiates contact.
- Men are HUNTERS. They like the chase and the pursuit. DO NOT make it easy for them.
- Don't ask questions like "Did you get my e-mail?" That can sound too needy, demanding, or insecure. Instead, rephrase questions as statements. "I sent you an e-mail" (include a smiley face).
- Avoid, avoid, avoid the BUT statements. Do not say things like "I want to see you again but I want to get to know you better first before I travel all the way there." Instead, say "I do want to see you again. In the meantime, I would really like to get to know you better. Maybe we could Skype or something."
Will we continue to gab like this until we are old ladies? I hope so. Will we continue to talk about men? Probably. Will we giggle and carry on like school girls? Most likely. We have a connection, and that connection will last as long as we live.